Over the weekend I was reminded just how much each and every one of us keeps from a certain person or multiple people. When we are upset and have had our feelings hurt instead of telling the person they hurt our feelings we decide to keep it to ourselves and suffer. Why do we do this? We obviously know that we should talk to the person but it’s like we are fearful of what may happen. We know that if we don’t say anything then it may happen again and again, yet we still “hide” our feelings.
I am guilty of hiding my feelings especially when someone has said something that really hurts. Why do I allow myself to become overtaken by the words from someone else’s mouth? Why do I allow myself to be affected by the negative words? More importantly, why do I fail to tell the people how they have made me feel? Is it because I am afraid? Is it that I am intimidated? Is it because I would rather suffer than stand up to someone?
Not only have I hid my true feelings but I have seen others do it as well. Just this past weekend I watched a loved one be hurt by the words of another loved one. Instead of sharing how she was hurt with the person who said the words she kept it to herself until she shared it with me. I was greatly affected by this situation because I have been in her shoes. I felt terrible and disappointed in myself because if I would have shared how the person had hurt my feelings then maybe, just maybe, I would not have had to watch my loved one go through so much pain. I comforted her and told her she needed to be strong and stand up and tell how she was hurt because if she didn’t say anything the person would not know any better and it would continue to happen.
I have been able to share my thoughts and feelings with the people that should know except for one important person. He means a lot to me but I still cannot find enough strength in myself to talk to him. It may be a mystery as to why I will not talk to him but the answer as to why may be deep down inside of me and I know why I won’t talk to him.
So think about it. Who do you “hide” from? Does the same person hurt you over and over? You need to stand up for yourself no matter who is hurting you whether it is a parent, sibling, family member or friend. Remember that you are strong and by sharing how you have been hurt will make you feel better. Don’t hide and suffer, share, learn, and grow closer to the people who say/do things that hurt your feelings.
We all have that one person who is extremely hard to talk to. I wish I could go right up to the person and say everything that has been on my mind my whole life but I don’t. I lay in bed at night thinking about what to say and when the time comes when we are together I somehow talk myself out of it. I, just like you, need to be strong and not afraid. We can do it. We can keep others from getting hurt. It takes one step at a time. The first step is the hardest but know that it gets easier. So don’t hide anymore. Tell how you feel because you may not get the chance if you keep waiting and waiting.
I am not just guilty of hiding my feelings but I am guilty of hiding from myself and others. We all make mistakes and sometimes feel ashamed but we should no longer hide. We need to give all of our problems and mistakes and place them in the hands of the One who gave his life for us. Don't hide the true person you are. Be proud of yourself and learn from your mistakes in the past. If it was a mistake, it's in the past; move on. Learn from your mistakes and make a better future. Don't hold your pain inside. Be willing to share with others; you don't know how many people can relate to your situation. Share with others. You may save or impact someone else's life.
To anyone who hides behind a smile
To anyone who holds their pain inside
To anyone who thinks they’re not good enough
To anyone who feels unworthy of love
To anyone who ever closed the door
Closed their eyes and locked themselves away
You don’t have to hide
You don’t have to hide anymore
You don’t have to face this on your own
You don’t have to hide anymore
So come out, come out, come out wherever you are
To anyone who’s tryin’ to cover up their scars
To anyone who’s ever made a big mistake
We’ve all been there, so don’t be ashamed
Come out, come out and join the rest of us
You’ve been alone for way too long
And if you feel like no one understands
Come to the One with scars on His hands
‘Cause He knows where you are, where you’ve been
His scars will heal you if you let Him
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